Excessive -|ikˈsesiv|- adjective
more than is necessary, normal, or desirable; immoderate : she makes excessive amounts of phone calls and texts..
My ex went to Florida with her latest {financial backer} I mean boyfriend. While on vacation with my family I noticed my son repeatedly checking his phone one day, secretly leaving the room and when asked where he went upon returning he would answer nowhere. I checked his phone and found about 13 text messages from his mom. "whatcha doin?" he'll respond "nothing" and mom will say "well that sounds like fun". Then she would follow that with "what kind of souvenir do you want from the beach?" The ex went to the aquarium and sent about 5 pictures to my son of fish! That's right I said fish. "Look at this one he looks like Nemo and this one looks like Dory, (just so you know this woman is just shy of 40 years old). God forbid my son does not pick the phone up when his mother calls. That evening we were all outside (I left my phone in the house because I don't keep it up my ass, i've tried - it's an iphone, it's smart but also big), when we came back in I picked up my phone and had missed 3 phone calls and 2 texts "could you have the kids call me please" (at least I get a please). I then checked my son's phone and saw 2 missed phone calls from his mother and 2 texts "call your mother". Mind you, my son does keep his phone up his ass (as any 14 year old does) so why did he ignore her calls? All I ask for is a little respect for the time I spend with my family. When the children are with their mother over the weekend I don't call, I feel I can go two days without talking to them. If they need something they have my number, they can call me. I try and give my ex time with the kids, and them time with her, without interjecting. My children know that I love them, they don't need me to tell them 15 times a day. When I don't call I am told "you don't love your children enough to call? they have told me it hurts their feelings when you don't call All weekend" (48 hours, really? come on). This is not the first time she has done this with the phone calls and texts, this happens every week if not every day. We actually got rid of our house phone because we had to unplug it every day just to be able to sit down and have dinner in peace.
At this point I don't want to call her back because I am so pissed that I don't get a moment’s peace, but that would be putting my feelings for her first instead of putting the kids first. Also if I don't have them call her I, as well as the children (I'm sure), are told that I withhold them from her by not allowing her to speak with them. It's as if she won't allow the children to have any fun or enjoy themselves without her{they might forget they have a mother}Like I have, said she is good (or at least relentless). And for those of you who read last night’s post I have not forgotten about the daily picture. This one is kind of fitting...
My ex went to Florida with her latest {financial backer} I mean boyfriend. While on vacation with my family I noticed my son repeatedly checking his phone one day, secretly leaving the room and when asked where he went upon returning he would answer nowhere. I checked his phone and found about 13 text messages from his mom. "whatcha doin?" he'll respond "nothing" and mom will say "well that sounds like fun". Then she would follow that with "what kind of souvenir do you want from the beach?" The ex went to the aquarium and sent about 5 pictures to my son of fish! That's right I said fish. "Look at this one he looks like Nemo and this one looks like Dory, (just so you know this woman is just shy of 40 years old). God forbid my son does not pick the phone up when his mother calls. That evening we were all outside (I left my phone in the house because I don't keep it up my ass, i've tried - it's an iphone, it's smart but also big), when we came back in I picked up my phone and had missed 3 phone calls and 2 texts "could you have the kids call me please" (at least I get a please). I then checked my son's phone and saw 2 missed phone calls from his mother and 2 texts "call your mother". Mind you, my son does keep his phone up his ass (as any 14 year old does) so why did he ignore her calls? All I ask for is a little respect for the time I spend with my family. When the children are with their mother over the weekend I don't call, I feel I can go two days without talking to them. If they need something they have my number, they can call me. I try and give my ex time with the kids, and them time with her, without interjecting. My children know that I love them, they don't need me to tell them 15 times a day. When I don't call I am told "you don't love your children enough to call? they have told me it hurts their feelings when you don't call All weekend" (48 hours, really? come on). This is not the first time she has done this with the phone calls and texts, this happens every week if not every day. We actually got rid of our house phone because we had to unplug it every day just to be able to sit down and have dinner in peace.
At this point I don't want to call her back because I am so pissed that I don't get a moment’s peace, but that would be putting my feelings for her first instead of putting the kids first. Also if I don't have them call her I, as well as the children (I'm sure), are told that I withhold them from her by not allowing her to speak with them. It's as if she won't allow the children to have any fun or enjoy themselves without her{they might forget they have a mother}Like I have, said she is good (or at least relentless). And for those of you who read last night’s post I have not forgotten about the daily picture. This one is kind of fitting...
I hear you on the excessive. Right now, though, my kids are contacting me (my daughter texts non-stop at times from her dad's house). Wanted to tell you that I'm working on a post about crazy ex-wives (although not a bash, just an observation) and mentioned your blog. I'd love it if you could comment...maybe we can guest blog sometime? I couldn't find an email for you, or would have sent this long thing offline! Also, thanks for the follows.
ReplyDeleteJennifer my e-mail is lotsolaughs3@gmail.com, feel free to e-mail, i would love to talk more
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